How To Live With More Happiness And Joy, are they different?
“Happiness lies in the absorption in some vocation which satisfies the soul.”
Sir William Osler
“Real joy comes not from ease or riches or from the praise of men, but from doing something worthwhile.”
Sir Wilfred Grenfell
To live with more happiness and joy, it requires taking control of the thoughts that permeate our minds, which create the stress, anxiety, and worry or the happiness and joy we feel. Some ideas for you to investigate that can help you understand and find find more of both, happiness and joy in your life.
1. Is there really a difference between happiness and joy?
2. Living In The Present
3. Calming Meditation or Prayer
4. Learning To Let Go
5. Giving And Receiving
6. Who We Let Into Our Lives
Everyone would say that living with happiness and joy or finding more happiness or finding more joy in life is very important. Everyone would probably also say that they would love to know how to live with more happiness and joy in their lives. However, as you can see below, in America we continue to struggle when it comes to happiness.
According to the article in the Washington Post dated March 21st, 2019 by Allison Chiu, “Americans are the unhappiest they’ve ever been, U.N. report finds. An ‘epidemic of addictions’ could be to blame.” the U.N. report has the United States falling another spot in a list of 156 happiest countries. “For the third year in a row, the U.S. has dropped in the ranking and now sits at No. 19, one spot lower than last year…”
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Is there really a difference between happiness and joy?
There are tons of articles and posts trying to describe or dissect the difference in the human experience between happiness and joy.
When you are having a private conversation with a friend or relative and you are delving into how they are doing what is the most often asked question in a conversation like that? Are you happy? That is the question, not are you joyful or, are you filled with joy? No, it’s are you happy?
This is a great question, are you happy, and for anyone to answer that question they don’t immediately think, well, I will be happy if I win the lotto, no, they internally ask themselves the question, am I really truly happy?
So, the overall concept or the intended difference between happiness and joy when they are discussed in conversations, articles or blog posts there seems to be an attempt to connect the word “joy” to some form of spiritual, religious or deeper internal reckoning or realization that is only arrived at or becomes viable if an individual has a deep connection with “spirit”.
In other words, you can’t experience real happiness unless you have a deeper connection with let’s say spirit or a deity of some kind which will bring you the actual and internal sense of joy which is then different in some way than knowing or experiencing happiness.
It is, however, sound advice that each of us find our own way to find peace and contentment through some form of meditation or prayer. Here is where the conversation can start to go off the rails.
Any form of ideology or methodology for spiritual or religious practice is totally up to you. You can find happiness and joy through whatever form you choose or none if that’s what is suited for you. No one can be happy or joyous if they are made to practice some form of spiritual or religious belief that does not work for them.
So then why is the question most often asked not, are you joyful, instead of, are you happy?
Well, as it turns out that in the webster dictionary definition for each, the other word is used as a synonym to describe the other.
See Merriam Webster for happiness. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/happiness
See Merriam Webster for Joy. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/joy
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OK, so what did we learn from the webster definitions? That happiness and joy are fairly if not totally interchangeable. It is unlikely (if not impossible) that you are not feeling joy when you are experiencing happiness and it is equally unlikely that you will not be experiencing happiness if you are feeling joy.
Bottom line, we are going to explore having a life filled with both happiness and joy at the same time or consecutively. The title of this post is, how to live with more happiness and joy, not choosing to experience one over the other, or that either is better, richer, deeper than the other.
Living a more vibrant life means you want both happiness and joy and lots more of them both and, the sooner you get more of both the better. Let’s explore how to create both and by the way if you haven’t visited our 1-Vibrant-Life home page on the meaning of living a more vibrant life check it out.
Living In The Present
Constant anxiety takes us out of the moment, preventing us from focusing on the now. When we live in the now, we’re tuned into the task at hand and focused what’s going on at that very moment in our lives. This is the central aspect of living with more happiness and joy.
Most of the time, life should be calm, and with calmness comes peace. In order to achieve a life filled with happiness and joy, we must maintain our focus on our lives in the now. Spending energy obsessing about the past and worrying about the future, or focusing on other people’s lives, keeps us from experiencing the peaceful happiness and joy-filled state of being that’s always available and within reach inside ourselves.
Often when we’re not living a life filled with happiness and joy, it’s because we’ve placed our expectations on other people and based our needs on them, and then those expectations were not met. We’re setting ourselves up for disappointment when we base our own happiness and joy on other people filling our needs.
If we learn to let go of depending on our expectations of others, we’re much less likely to be disappointed or let down in life. Remember that everyone does things according to their own needs and happiness and joy, not ours. We shouldn’t expect people to meet our (often unstated!) needs or live up to the standards we have for them.
In order to live a life with more happiness and joy, we must create it for ourselves. In order to do that, we first have to allow ourselves to experience gratefulness and abundance. If we’re not happy or joyful, it’s often because we’re not feeling a sense of gratefulness for the life we have right now.
To live a life with more happiness and joy we must be thankful for what we have right now in our lives and there is always lots to be grateful for if only we will take the time to stop and recognize them.
Even when we’re going through difficult times, there is always something that we can stop and appreciate. Far too often, we choose to think about everything we don’t have, instead of everything that we could be thankful for. When we live in a mindset of lack, we will experience lack.
We can not have a life filled with happiness and joy if we are feeling that our lives are not filled with things or the stuff that will really only give us that momentary distraction or excitement for that new thing.
If our happiness and joy have to come from receiving a gift, or if it’s based on the amount of money that’s in our bank account, our happiness and joy will only last for the brief moment that those external circumstances remain.
Creating a life that is filled with more happiness and joy also comes from finding our passion in life and pursuing it.
Happiness and joy are the feelings of contentment and satisfaction with our lives, and we shouldn’t need anything else for our happiness or our joy besides what we already have.
Finding our passion is easier said than done. Some people say it’s simply through luck that they’ve discovered their passion. Many people have found success in finding their passion and creating a life filled with more happiness and joy through meditation.
Life is like a piece of string with a lot of knots tied in it. The knots are the karma you’re born with from all your past lives, and the object of human life is to try and undo all those knots. That’s what chanting and meditation in God-consciousness can do. Otherwise, you simply tie another ten knots each time you try to undo one knot. That’s how karma works. George Harrison
Calming Meditation or Prayer
Calming meditating or prayer each day is very important in allowing more happiness and joy into our lives, no matter who you are or what you do.
You can turn a meditative form of quieting practice in any spiritual or religious form that you might like to. It can simply be a place to start or develop in whichever way that you choose.
You may have spiritual or religious beliefs that suit you and that’s fine, you should use whatever works best for you. You simply need to add this time of calming quiet and peace to your daily routine. When we can live with more happiness and joy it will create that peace, calmness, and serenity we all yearn for but so often never find.
However, for those that have no idea where to start and need some form of calming practice and a place to start, we will focus our attention here on Meditation as it can be very useful for anyone. Happiness and joy from being centered and in the present moment feeling all that is alive and around us right now.
There’s a saying about meditation: “If you don’t think you have enough time to meditate for an hour, then meditate for two.” The busier, the more hectic our lives are, the more we can benefit from meditation. It will help us clear our minds and think only of the important things that need to be done.
Meditation can help us discover what goals or tasks are truly important to us, and which ones we can set aside. Having a life filled with more happiness and joy certainly requires the ability to be able to say no to things we don’t want to do or know we don’t need to have.
Being successful doesn’t mean being constantly busy. Focusing ourselves on the right tasks and the right goals is more important than simply keeping busy with things that aren’t helping us realize our true passion or creating the happiness or joy in our lives that we long for.
Many successful people have credited their success to meditation, saying that the divine within them speaks to them and they get ideas that come from another place rather than their own minds.
Learning how to live with more happiness and joy and peace requires a constant and dedicated search and connection to our hearts our spirits, and our souls that exist only on the inside of each of us. All of that “stuff” which is on the exterior of our beings cannot and will not keep us happy or joyful for very long, it is all fleeting.
You can learn everything you need to know about meditation and how to get started here in the complete calm mind program.
To meditate, find a quiet place and determine how long you’ll spend meditating. Your primary goal is to try not to think of anything at all, focusing on your breath. Clear your mind from any distractions. Close your eyes, straighten your spine as much as possible, and tilt your head up slightly, elongating your neck. More happiness and joy can be found very simply by just sitting alone quietly and with our eyes closed.
Breathe in as deeply as possible through the nose. Picture filling your lungs from the bottom up, in your abdomen, rather than your upper chest. Hold your breath there for two to three seconds before exhaling everything out through the mouth.
After doing this for a while (generally between 5 – 10 minutes), some people will feel euphoric. When we clear our minds, it can create a very intense sensation. When we’re meditating properly, we can detach from our bodies, and it’s possible to feel a little lightheaded at times, especially as we get used to the increased oxygen flow from deep breathing.
Once we push past these strange sensations, we can learn to hear from our divine inner being (our higher consciousness) that will guide us to not only peace and happiness, but also to where we need to be in life.
Learning to Let Go
Learning to let go in life can be tricky for some people. The life they’re living and the feelings they’re having are so directly intertwined that it can be difficult to learn to let go. No one can live with more happiness and joy in their lives if they can’t let go of the past.
If we can internalize the fact that everything will be okay, we can learn to let go of what is the past, not worry about the future and move on with life according to our own needs wants and desires which will create more happiness and joy.
Some people go through unimaginable horrors in their lives, but they are able to come out of their awful experiences and find greener pastures. You can find so many people that have these sorts of terrifying and tragic stories that are living lives filled with more happiness and joy than they would have imagined during those parts of their lives.
This is also a good place to interject that running away from the problems that you may be facing is not a good idea either. You might like to look at our post Running Away From Problems, People and Life: Why We Do it, to get some perspective on the value of letting go so you can move forward.
There’s always a way forward. Even pessimistic people can find something to appreciate and find some happiness and joy in. Life will always get better if we learn how to look for the silver lining in every situation, giving us hope to hold onto, and with hope comes happiness and joy.
When we stop worrying about other people’s lives and internalize the knowledge that everything is going to be just fine no matter what situation we find ourselves in, we can start to feel content and satisfied, and that’s where the state of happiness and joy truly begins. Until we’re able to do that, we’ll constantly be worried, fretting over the little things in life and never experiencing the peace and happiness that comes from within.
We have no control over what other people say or do. No matter how hard we try, we can’t control everything that happens in our own lives, what to speak of others’. So it makes no sense to worry about these things.
Giving Is The Beginning of Receiving
Have you ever noticed that when you give something to someone with the right attitude (one filled with love), you experience the same emotions as they do? This happens because emotion is energy in motion. Our emotions are contagious. When we talk to a close friend who’s depressed and down, what happens to our energy levels? We sympathize with them, and our energy decreases and this can suck the happiness and joy right out of anyone of us.
We often feel sad now because our friend is sad. What happens when we’re feeling ecstatic about something and tell our friends about it? They usually start to get excited with us, even though they may have no idea what we’re talking about!
There have been multiple studies that prove that people who give generously (not begrudgingly) have happier moods and feel a greater sense of enjoyment in life. If we think about how our behaviors toward others can affect our own moods, then we can see that helping someone can make us feel like we’re changing their life for the better, which gives us a greater sense of happiness and joy and fulfillment in life.
Who We Allow into Our Lives
We tend to closely resemble our five closest friends. If we spend a lot of time with a bunch of negative Nancy’s, it’s likely that their energy levels are going to rub off on us in some way, shape, or form. This is not the path to finding more happiness and joy.
Misery loves company: when someone is unhappy, they want to find other people that are unhappy and unsatisfied with their own lives so they can feel better about themselves, knowing they’re not the only disgruntled person in the world.
As we’re learning to embrace and fill our lives with more happiness and joy from within ourselves, rather than depending on others, people who exude negativity will just hinder us in our journey. Once we’ve found our inner happiness and joy, it’s easier to keep ourselves centered and avoid letting their negativity influence us and bing us down.
If we want to find and fill our lives with more happiness and joy, it’s important to distance ourselves from anyone that’s like this. It’s not hard to tell exactly who these people are. Usually, they’re constantly complaining, griping, and whining about every little thing in their life. They aren’t full of gratitude, and if they continue along the path of negative thinking that they’re on, they’ll never be happy, and neither will we.
Learning to live with more happiness and joy is very simply up to us alone and no one else. As individuals, we need to take the steps necessary in our lives that will allow us to keep our lives and ourselves balanced. The main topics and ideas that we’ve shared above have been proven to help create more happiness and joy in our lives.
When we choose not to allow ourselves to become attached to outcomes from situations or other people to make us feel a sense of happiness and joy, filling our lives with more happiness and joy from within ourselves will become second nature.
We need to allow people and situations to enter and unfold in our lives as they will. At some point, we need to understand that we can only control and be in charge of ourselves and our own lives.
Life is about learning to become a better person inside and out. We can’t measure our success in life against other people’s lives, but we can focus on being the best version of ourselves possible. Knowing how to live with more happiness and joy is within reach for each of us, regardless of life’s circumstances.
Exercising, setting appropriate goals, meditating, giving to worthy charities, and concentrating on becoming a better person all lead to increased contentment and satisfaction with our lives.
When we find and fill our lives with the things we have a passion for passion, and let that guide our lives rather than letting our lives be dictated by the anxiety that comes from outside expectations, we can learn to embrace and live with more happiness and joy that comes with seeking the best life possible for ourselves.