5 Strategies For Dealing With the Ups and Downs in Life
What we learn as we get older is that life will have its ups and downs. We also learn that dealing with those ups and downs in life is a never-ending process. Life’s ups and downs create the richness of all of our lives. How we handle life’s ups and downs is what defines who we are. Here we’ll discuss how to deal with the ups and downs in life better. We’ve got 5 Strategies for dealing with the ups and downs in life below…
1Vibrantlife.com Editorial Team | May 21, 2021
A Therapist’s Perspective on life’s ups and downs.
The rollercoaster we call “life” includes highs and lows, ups and downs. Many of my clients come to Therapy when they are in the middle of a down, a low point in life.
From there, it can be hard to see any way forwards. However, with support, they inevitably find their own way up and out of the dark and often discover their mindset and worldview has shifted in the process.
This blog offers a refreshing insight into accepting that life invariably includes downs as well as ups. Such acceptance is a great way to start shaking off the faulty thinking that you can avoid difficulty if you just try hard enough. There’s plenty of practical tips and sage wisdom about how to deal with the ups and downs in life.
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“You can do very little with faith, but you can do nothing without it.”
~ Samuel Butler 1835 – 1902
There’s No Magic Wand For Dealing With the ups and downs in Life
If only somebody could have taught us the perfect way to deal with the ups and downs in life.
Sometimes we feel all strong, like warriors, but then we feel like helpless creatures on this vast planet the next day.
If only we had some kind of magic wand to get us through the ups and downs of life!
But as they say, to have a good life, you need to cherish both the happy and the sad moments.
You’ve probably heard it a lot and even said it to yourself: “This too shall pass.” But do you believe it?
Maybe sometimes, but on some of the down days, it seems like a bunch of words people toss around just to make you feel better.
Everything has two sides: ups and downs, happiness and sadness, ease and pain, and much more.
Going through all of these while maintaining balance is critical. After all, these things make you strong.
The one thing you have control over is how you deal with all ups and downs and how much energy you have to make the best of a difficult situation.
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Why we all have these ups and downs
Why can’t we live happily ever after and skip all the negative parts of life? If only someone could give us the perfect answer for this.
But the truth is that nothing we say or do can stop this type of inquiry because having a life without struggle, pain, and suffering is only possible in our heads.
The perfect life is a combination of both ups and downs. Everything has its reverse, and we’ll always see that throughout our lives.
It is necessary to have both ups and downs because the downs in our lives keep us grounded and kind.
The ups make us feel blessed and inspire us to show a little gratitude to the people around us.
Having a life without ups and downs would be plain and boring. You might be sighing about this idea, but it is true.
Recognizing your life’s constant ups and downs is beautiful.
When you can acknowledge and appreciate both the ups and downs, you’ll be able to cultivate greater contentment and inner harmony.
If you listen closely to yourself and pay attention to your mood, you’ll notice that you experience many slight ups and downs on a daily basis. It’s a simple fact of life.
These ups and downs can bring us closer to the parts of ourselves that need attention, validation, and love and make us feel grateful for whatever we have in our lives.
Having both of these things in our lives helps us to stay grounded.
Imagine a roller coaster: it’s impossible to separate the ups and the downs from each other.
Both are necessary for an exciting and complete experience. Similarly, life is one big roller coaster, with the ups and downs both essential for creating a whole and enjoyable life.
Having ups and downs makes you human.
How to handle life’s ups and downs
No matter how much we repeat that it’s normal to have ups and downs, some of us have a hard time handling them.
Most of us have trouble maintaining balance during both good times and bad. However, it is possible to learn how to handle the ups and downs.
As we’ve described, ups and downs are inextricably linked, and you cannot have one without the other.
But being low doesn’t have to lead to depression, self-doubt, or self-judgment. And the upward spiral doesn’t have to lead to excessive elation, ego, or satisfaction.
When you realize that you are going through hard times and the things you love aren’t exciting anymore, take a step back and just try to breathe.
Remind yourself that it will pass. All the bad things that are happening to you are momentary and temporary.
Soon you will be in a better place, where you don’t feel like this anymore.
We understand that this often doesn’t make any sense to someone who may be suffering, but when practiced, it is helpful.
Our heart is like a kid who needs to be consoled from time to time. The reminder that it’s not going to be like this forever will bring you some relief.
5 Strategies for dealing with the ups and downs in life
Here are five practices that will help you deal more easily with the ups and downs of life.
– Generally, when we’re going through a hard time, we forget to be kind to ourselves.
We force ourselves to carry on as if everything is fine and then burden ourselves with unnecessary guilt.
Know that it is natural if you don’t want to do any chores or go to work on your hard days. Just look out for yourself and try to be kind to yourself.
Don’t let fear rule your life
– It’s crucial not to let your fear dictate how you live your life.
Fear creates a barrier that prevents your growth. Instead, face your fears and work to overcome them, break down that barrier and create a way through to a more peaceful state.
Allow healing into your life
– Let healing come to you. Healing is not something rare or fancy.
As we’ve already said, be kind to yourself, and accept opportunities for healing and growth. Do things that make you feel good about yourself and your existence.
Believe in the universe –
Maintaining a positive perspective or believing in the universe providing what you need will help you get through the negative times.
So have faith that whatever is happening to you is for your good.
Reach out to people
– When it is too much for you to handle, one of the best things you can do is reach out to people who can help you.
They can be professionals, or friends, or family. Do you know that one out of every eight adults seeks mental health care?
Let the stats give you the strength to reach out to a therapist.
Talking about suffering, pain, or trauma is okay, and you don’t need to feel ashamed and hide it from the world.
Find a place where you can talk about it without the fear of getting judged.
Understand that sleepless nights are going to happen, and sometimes you’re going to need to let go and have a good cry.
This is all part of moving through tough times, and all of us will have to deal with many tough times throughout our lives.
There is no way out but through.
Finding courage and having faith that you can deal with life’s ups and downs is the answer.
Simply put, dealing with everything that life throws at you is living, so embrace it.
Live your life with conviction, purpose and live it vibrantly!
Claire Law is a UK-based Counsellor and Psychotherapist from Preston, Northern England. Claire became a therapist after a career of almost two decades of High School teaching experience. She’s also worked extensively in the Social Care and Charity Sectors, and as a Mental Health Advisor in Higher Education. Claire combines her current Psychotherapy practice with freelance writing on Mental Health, Wellbeing and Psychology topics. She has a passion for Social Justice and environmental causes.
Claire holds a degree from Nottingham University, a Post Graduate Certificate in Education from Leeds Trinity University College and a Post Graduate Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapy from the University of Central Lancashire. She’s completed a wide range of extensive training and certifications in Domestic Abuse, Survivors of Sexual Abuse & Sexual Violence, Suicide and Self-Harm, Expressive Arts Therapy, Gender Variance, Online and Telephone Counselling and Polyvagal Regulation developed by Stephen Porges, a professor of psychiatry at the University of North Carolina and “Distinguished University Scientist” at Indiana University.