Discover What Motivates You to Succeed in Life

In this article, we will drill down into what motivation is, and hopefully help you discover what motivates you to succeed in life, and how you can make motivation work for you.

 By Claire Law / December 9, 2020

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“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours.”

Henry David Thoreau,

 

Understanding what motivates you to succeed in life

You know you want to succeed in life. Annoyingly, the formula to that success can feel mysterious and enigmatic.

Motivation is part of the answer, for sure. Yet, procrastination, doubt, and confusion can interfere with motivation so that any drive dissipates, trickling through your hands like sand.

We’ll consider how motivation can spur you to success and mastering excellence. Motivation describes the reason behind our actions. 

Derived from the word motive, motivation impacts what we do and how we perform those actions and behaviors. Our motivation is individual and intrinsically linked to our culture and upbringing and the messages we internalized as a child.

Awareness of what spurs us on, therefore, is a powerful self-development tool and opportunity. Understanding what motivates and inspires us to succeed in life helps us exploit our own abilities and potential to the max.  

“Logic will take you from A to B.  Imagination will take you everywhere”. Albert Einstein

Procrastination: The Enemy of Motivation:

Procrastination is the very opposite of motivation. When there’s a deadline to meet or a task to complete, procrastination can stop us from getting started or avoiding finishing a particular task. Procrastination is a common human experience.

People often report procrastination in relation to things they’d rather avoid, such as chores, having that difficult conversation with a colleague, or finishing the assignment.

Procrastination, however, is not the same as being lazy. Procrastination is an active process – you choose to do something else instead of the task you know you should be doing.

In contrast, laziness suggests apathy, inactivity, and an unwillingness to act. Scientists have been studying what causes or leads to procrastination.

An important piece of research, “The nature of procrastination: a meta-analytic and theoretical review of quintessential self-regulatory failure,” published in 2007, looked at almost 700 research studies to combine the ideas and findings to ascertain the factors that increase the tendency towards procrastination.

This study identified four main factors that contribute towards procrastination: low self-efficacy, low value, impulsiveness, and delay.  

Self-efficacy relates to how effective a person believes they are. When we have low-self efficacy, we don’t have much confidence in our ability to complete a task or complete it well.

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Low self-efficacy can be a vicious circle. When we procrastinate because of low self-efficacy, we can feel less motivated and less capable, resulting in reduced self-efficacy. Being a perfectionist can also mean we feel a low sense of self-efficacy that results in procrastination. 

“low value” Is the aspect of procrastination described that refers to the way in which we cognitively assess the importance of a task. When we judge a task to be of low or little value, we have low or little motivation to tackle that task.   

Impulsiveness refers to the way in which we relate to distractions around us. When we are in an environment with lots of distractions, or we are especially vulnerable to distraction and resisting temptation, then we’re much more likely to procrastinate and be less motivated to stick at something.   

Delay is the final aspect of procrastination identified by the 2007 study. Our sense and evaluation of how long we have to complete a task impacts our tendency to procrastinate.

The longer we believe we have to complete a task increases the likelihood that we will wait to get started on it. A shorter time frame means we are statistically more likely to be motivated to get going.  

A helpful self-development and self-awareness task can be to consider the role procrastination plays in our own lives and what factors increase our personal tendency to procrastinate, and, as a result, hamper with our motivation.

Once we understand our procrastination tendencies, we can take action and thereby increase our own motivation. 

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“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Thomas Edison

 

No Pain, No Gain? 

Having spent time considering the factors behind procrastination, let’s focus our attention on motivation itself. 

Here, we turn to the ancient wisdom of the Greek Philosopher, Socrates. Somewhere around 470–399 BCE, Socrates spoke about the human tendency to act in a manner that will maximize pleasure and minimize pain.

This is an essential lesson in the art of motivation. We are motivated to avoid pain and move towards pleasure. Another way to consider this is with the “carrot and stick” paradigm. A donkey, fully laden, can be motivated to continue plodding onwards by the promise, or reward, of a carrot.

Likewise, avoiding the punishment of being beaten with a stick might also factor in as a means to ensure the poor donkey keeps moving onwards. And, so, too, with humans.

We are motivated to approach positive goals and motivated to avoid negative outcomes.

There is a helpful lesson there for our own personal development: when considering your own motivation for a given task – consider the positive outcomes of achieving this as well as the negative consequences of failing to meet the deadline. 

It may just prove to be the motivation that makes the difference.  

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“Man is a goal seeking animal. His life only has meaning if he is reaching out and striving for his goals.”- Aristotle

 

Unmet Needs

When considering what motivates us to succeed, the thinking of American psychologist, Abraham Maslow, is helpful.

In his famous 1943 paper A Theory of Human Motivation, Maslow argued that humans are motivated to meet basic physical needs first before then seeking to meet their psychological needs.

In other words, human beings are first motivated to meet their own basic and then more complex needs. It may be that certain basic needs went unmet as a child. 

In which case, according to Maslow, your current behavior may lead you to subconsciously be drawn towards meeting such unmet needs.

These might include the need for affirmation, approval, or status. If you sense you are motivated by a desire to influence and impress those in power, it may signal an unmet need for approval.

If you sense that providing for your family motivates you now, it may signal an unmet need for security. Awareness is the tool that makes the difference here.

Bringing unmet needs into consciousness means you have greater self-awareness and greater choice as a result.

Such awareness means you can make your unmet needs work for you and motivate you towards what success means for you.  

“We are what we think”.
Buddha

 

Discover Your Motivating Desire: 

Much of what we’ve discovered in this article about motivation suggests that self-knowledge and self-awareness are essential to understanding what it is that spurs us on as an individual.

We’ve seen how we are both motivated to avoid pain and also motivated to move towards pleasure.

It’s helpful, then, to consider the work of American psychologist Steven Reiss when we think about motivation.

He identified and described 16 basic desires or needs that humans exhibit.

Basic DesireEnd Goals
PowerAchievement
IndependanceFreedom, Ego, Integrity
CuriosityKnowledge, Truth
AcceptancePositive self-image, self-worth
OrderCleanliness, Stability, Organisation
SavingCollection, Property
HonorMorality, Character, Loyalty
IdealismFairness, Justice
Social contactFriendship, Justice
FamilyChildren
StatusWealth, Titles, Attention, Awards
VenganceWinning, Aggression
RomanceBeauty, Sex
EatingFood, Dinning, Hunting
Physical exresciseFitness
Tranquility Relaxation

Understanding what motivates us as a unique individual could be as simple as selecting which of Reiss’ 16 desires seem most pertinent to us, and then use these to form our own goals and targets.

Perhaps we most desire power, romance, or order.

Or possibly we desire independence, tranquility, or even vengeance above all other wants.

A study of Reiss’ model, along with self-reflection, can help us to drill into our own unique motivation.  

The journey towards success is made simpler and less tedious when we begin to identify our own unique motivation and what it is in life that spurs us on.

Discovering this means we are less likely to procrastinate and delay the mastery and excellence that could be ours.

Reflecting upon what we want to avoid is as important as what would bring us pleasure.

Our unmet needs and that which we desire are also ways we can tap into what motivates us. 

Self-development, self-reflection, and self-awareness can help to illuminate motivation for us.

Are you motivated to look inwards to discover that which can move you forwards in life?  

Author - Claire Law

Claire is a UK based Writer and is a qualified psychotherapist, with a PGDip in Integrative Psychotherapy. Claire has 17 years' teaching High School Students, writing for an educational website and significant experience both working and volunteering in the charity sector.